The power of the tongue

Toothpaste tube under pressure = a mess!

You might be wondering about the above picture. Let me briefly explain. Two days ago I shared a devotion with our low income and homeless friends. The devotion time is 10-15 minutes so I pray for a powerful impact in a short time. That night I used the toothpaste demonstration to show how when under pressure, tooth paste is going to come quickly out, oozing in a mess. The same thing goes for the words that come out of our mouths. I was trying to decide whether to share this in a blog post, but considering so many people have trouble “holding their tongue” I figured it wouldn’t hurt.

Let’s be real! Our words can have a very powerful and lasting effect on us and others. We are wise to choose carefully the things we say. I shared Proverbs 18:21, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” ‭(ESV‬‬), explaining there are consequences to the things we say. We can build up with genuine encouragement or we can tear down with gossip, negativity and complaints. It is astounding how words can have such a lasting sting or comfort. Can you think of a time or two when you have experienced this? I certainly can. For example, I am not the best with receiving “praise” simply because my hearts desire is to be humble. When people speak words of kindness and encouragement over me it truly means so much. Another example is being hurt by misunderstandings and gossip. I don’t have trouble forgiving but forgetting and moving forward after something like that takes God’s healing touch. It is wise to be mindful of the things we say and how they have an impact. I do realize sometimes people need to “vent”, just be careful to whom you vent so it doesn’t go into the “gossip-mill”.

Another thing that baffles me is when people get “heated” and strong language comes out. I shared the following scripture in my devotion. The every end of Luke 6:45 says, “What you say, flows from what is in your heart.” So if our words are rash, critical, negative complaints, we need to take a look at what’s in our heart. We might think “no one sees what’s in my heart”, that’s true BUT our actions and words reflect what’s there. Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” (ESV‬‬)

The last scripture I shared comes from the book of James. “but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.” James‬ ‭3‬:‭8‬-‭10‬ ‭(ESV‬‬) I explained at the end of the devotion that we all need God to help us control our words. Several of the people thanked me afterwards. It is truly something everyone needs to be aware of whether you are a Christian or not. The tongue is powerful. From the toothpaste demonstration, what comes out can’t easily be put back in, so choose your words wisely.

Hope everyone has an amazing weekend. Be blessed, and better yet, be a Blessing!

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The “Art” of Forgiving

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Oh boy! Talking about a hard thing! We ALL experience forgiveness and the need to extend it towards those who wrong us, usually on a daily basis. I see this in humanity, people I know and love, and see it’s a “God” thing. We need Gods help to truly forgive from the heart. As I was praying this morning I asked God to release me from the hurt caused by hurtful untrue things people say. I am always a forgiving person, but lets be honest, the hurt inflicted by people can weigh us down.

It’s kind of interesting, after I prayed this morning asking God to help me to forgive and let it go, including the hurt, He allowed me to see the verse of the day. “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭13‬ ‭(NLT‬‬) Okay Lord, I’m listening! The thing is, forgiveness in itself is a choice and it’s not a hard choice to make when you want to live in peace. However, what in the world do you do with the disappointment and hurt? Looks like some Holy Spirit healing is needed.

Often times conversations and intentions are totally misunderstoood or taken out of context Other times people get so emotionally disillusioned they don’t see a situation clearly. I’ll throw in miscommunication when people simply don’t understand yet repeat something that didn’t happen. I will go as far as to say, ASL (American sign language) and spoken English are two very different languages.

As I have been reading through the Bible again this year, I love how it “sticks” to my mine. Proverbs talks about gossip and it is so true. “A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16‬:‭28‬ ‭(NLT)‬‬ This is so true. As I was praying this morning I said, “Lord humanity is such a mess! We are created to bring You glory yet the devil messes it up.“. Everyone, and I do mean everyone gossips sometimes. Some more than others. Just being honest here, There is a wealth of instruction for Godly living in the Bible. Let’s take it to heart and apply it to our lives. The world would be a whole lot more peaceful and joyful. Take for example the following verse from Psalm. “Then keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies!” Psalms‬ ‭34‬:‭13‬ ‭(NLT‬‬). In the book of James it really “hammers home” this point. “And among all the parts of the body, the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.” James‬ ‭3‬:‭6‬ ‭(NLT‬‬)

The Bible is FULL of wise counsel on how to live in this fallen world. It directs us in how to navigate life. As I shared with the homeless during devotions last Wednesday on how powerful God’s Word is, I old them it’s like a map for life. It’s God’s loving instructions to us to get us through this journey. It would be wise to read it and apply it to our lives. We had 9 Bibles to give away last Wednesday. I told them as they lined up to get physical food, to also take a Bible for spiritual food. Eight people took a Bible! Praise God!

Life is messy. From most standards I lead a boring life but yet as I read God’s Word and see life unfold around me, it is messy. I see people with struggling marriages. I see people trying to make it look like their life is perfect, when it’s an illusion. I see people trying to truly forgive people for things done to them decades ago, they say they have forgiven but still refuse to talk to those who wronged them. Then there are those homeless and living in shelters for various reasons, trying to make life work. Just looking at the whole isssue called LIFE, it’s MESSY. It is vital we seek God at every step. The devil is active to stir up trouble BUT Jesus overcomes it all. It’s also wise to be careful about your circle of friends and support group. You need others who will speak life and encouragement into your life not critism. Think before you speak, and yes I am speaking to myself as well.

When I saw the verse of the day, there was a video devotion that went with it. The devotion. tied forgiveness and empathy together. I love empathy! Being able to put yourself inside someone else’s shoes. Try it! It will change your perspective if you attempt to see things from someone else’s situation. A world of wisdom there. I think I will stop here. We can’t change people but we can change how we respond to them and we can creat boundaries to avoid some of people’s chaos. Lord help us respond well and in a merciful gracious way that brings You glory.

Have an amazing weekend. Be blessed and better yet, be a blessing!

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